Feeling Wanted

Have you ever felt not wanted?  Not needed?  I have.  I am not a depressed person.  I am not a "pity party for me" type of person.  I am usually very happy and light hearted.

Lately though, I have felt a little unwanted.  I won't bore you with the details, but let me give you some pointers on how to treat people - anytime.  All of us want to feel needed, wanted.  It is a normal human being feeling.  This is what keeps us going.  Someone needs us.  Someone wants us.  If we don't feel this way, we tend to slip into a dark place, which for some - never come out of.  I have known people who have gone to this dark place, and now I will never see them again.  It is very sad, but such a reality for some.

I have two pointers to help you help everyone feel wanted:

1.  If you are working with a group of people - for whatever reason - be sure you ask everyone's opinion, and don't bash those opinions.  Most of the time we don't always need to be right, but we do always want to be heard.  Everyone usually has a thought of how something might go.  Even if someone's opinion isn't what is finally decided upon, ask it anyways.  Everyone needs a chance to be heard.

2.  If you are offered service by someone - whether it is great or small - accept it.  The offering person would not have offered unless they really wanted to help.  Turning away service turns down a person's opportunity and willingness to help.  Even if you don't want the help, or think you need it, in some way, accept it.  That person probably needs a little extra boost in their life - and serving others is one way to do that.  If their service is never accepted, they think they are worthless, and never needed or wanted.

Everyone needs to be loved.  Everyone needs to feel wanted.  Everyone wants to be heard.  Open up your own generosity door and let these people in.   I'm not saying this is easy - it is way easier to give service than to receive it.  But, when you look back, you will have grown because of it.

Now - go help someone be happier today!  Spread some SUNSHINE!

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Last Thursday, I received a phone call letting me know my dad had been admitted to the hospital for difficulty breathing and swallowing.  While he was there he tried to stand up to get out of his bed.  He fainted.  He "crashed".  They had to revive him.  They had to put him on a ventilator (life support).  He was now in ICU.

Of course, I dropped everything, got on a flight from Utah to California that afternoon.  Was by his side Thursday night.  My sister came with me.  My two brothers arrived the next day.

While doing tests for why he couldn't breathe well, they found cancer by his kidney.  His kidneys were not performing as they should either.  There were numerous problems with his body.  They couldn't even figure out what all of them were and why they were happening.  Side note: Chemotherapy can't begin until his body is healthy enough to handle it.  Kidneys play a major part in Chemotherapy.

We were all sort of in a scramble to get our spouses and children there to say goodbye.  The diagnoses wasn't good.  We thought we would all be saying our goodbyes to our dad within the next day or two.

But - he improved.  He started to breathe on his own.  He woke up.  Slowly, day by day the IV's came out.  His breathing and coughing (to cough up all the gunk that pooled in his lungs while on life support) improved.   We called off the mass exodus of more family members to California for the time being.

Yesterday he was moved out of ICU.  Off all the IV's.  We were so excited to see such great progress.  He was taken to get an MRI of his throat to see why his swallowing wasn't improving.  Nothing.  This is still a mystery of why he can't swallow.  If he can't swallow, he can't eat.  If he can't eat, he can't get the full nutrients he needs to get his body strong enough for Chemo.  If he can't have Chemo, he was given only a few months to live because of the cancer.

We're in a hard place.  But there is hope.  We hope the doctors can figure this whole swallowing thing out.  So many prayers are being offered in my dad's behalf.  We are still in a very tough place with his health.

But - while we were there, we had SO MANY tender mercies.  Too many to list, but I testify that God is on our side.  He is watching us.  He has blessed us beyond measure these past few days as my siblings and I hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

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It's Monday.  It is raining outside - has been most of the night.  The smell of the air is fresh and clean.  I like Mondays.  Last night we went and visited my sister and her family.  The kids were able to play with each other (they love cousin time!).  I have lots of work to do today.  Get a hoodie order done for a youth group, cut some vinyl for Christmas projects that have already begun, yummy dinner to plan and prepare, Family Home Evening tonight.  Mondays are good.

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